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there are certain things that a woman needs, one of them being a place where she can go on and on about a boring topic without being cut off by some self-righteous asshole telling you to get over it. some people just don't understand that need to rant, but luckily, i'm not one of them.
i love ranting. in fact, it could be said that it's one of the most satisfying past-times i've ever experienced. it reduces stress, it calms you down, it helps you think a bit more clearly (afterwards, of course). what more could a girl want? ranting is the next best thing to chocolates and oil massages.
why can't some people (majority of them being male) see the benefits of having a good rant? some people like to keep their opinions to themselves, but a woman like me just can't sometimes. i HAVE to get it out in the open, preferably to a close female friend, or even an unwilling boyfriend would do. it's impolite to say no, you know. there's no escaping a woman with something on her mind that's bothering her to kingdom come. it's either blurt or bust. it's not to say that we're not reliable when it comes to secrets, it's just saying that sometimes it helps to think out loud to a sounding board. a friend who is willing to listen to me and my hand gestures for an hour is a good friend indeed. how many willing friends can you name?
men need to understand that not all women are like them. in fact, i can say that almost none are. women don't have caves (quoting doc john gray), women need to let it out and not bottle it in. men don't talk about things that bother them... they prefer to withdraw into themselves and think it over and over until they feel they have it all sorted out. but women can't do that most of the time... we need to think outloud, even if it's to a mirror. don't blame your girlfriend or your wife when she's ranting to herself while she's in the shower (so loudly that you're neighbor told you to turn down the tv), or when she has her girlfriends over to a three-hour coffee and cake while you're trying to watch sunday sports. it's her way of coping. she needs to talk to a friend when she has something on her mind. may i make a suggestion? give her your credit card and send her and her sister/best friend off to a day spa. seriously. she'll be so relaxed that she won't feel like talking very much at all. and where there's no talking, there's serenity. isn't that what we all want?
i love ranting. in fact, it could be said that it's one of the most satisfying past-times i've ever experienced. it reduces stress, it calms you down, it helps you think a bit more clearly (afterwards, of course). what more could a girl want? ranting is the next best thing to chocolates and oil massages.
why can't some people (majority of them being male) see the benefits of having a good rant? some people like to keep their opinions to themselves, but a woman like me just can't sometimes. i HAVE to get it out in the open, preferably to a close female friend, or even an unwilling boyfriend would do. it's impolite to say no, you know. there's no escaping a woman with something on her mind that's bothering her to kingdom come. it's either blurt or bust. it's not to say that we're not reliable when it comes to secrets, it's just saying that sometimes it helps to think out loud to a sounding board. a friend who is willing to listen to me and my hand gestures for an hour is a good friend indeed. how many willing friends can you name?
men need to understand that not all women are like them. in fact, i can say that almost none are. women don't have caves (quoting doc john gray), women need to let it out and not bottle it in. men don't talk about things that bother them... they prefer to withdraw into themselves and think it over and over until they feel they have it all sorted out. but women can't do that most of the time... we need to think outloud, even if it's to a mirror. don't blame your girlfriend or your wife when she's ranting to herself while she's in the shower (so loudly that you're neighbor told you to turn down the tv), or when she has her girlfriends over to a three-hour coffee and cake while you're trying to watch sunday sports. it's her way of coping. she needs to talk to a friend when she has something on her mind. may i make a suggestion? give her your credit card and send her and her sister/best friend off to a day spa. seriously. she'll be so relaxed that she won't feel like talking very much at all. and where there's no talking, there's serenity. isn't that what we all want?
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